Sex Story: The Queer Divorcé Exploring Polyamory

This week, a guy explores his sexuality, kinks, and boundaries after being in a heterosexual matrimony: 34, in a polyamorous union, Philly.

DAY ONE

8:30 a.m.

I wake-up Sunday morning in J’s West Village apartment. We met 12 years back at a celebration (when I ended up being right and he had been a woman) and significantly disliked both. We recently reconnected whenever I noticed him tweeting about their splitting up and following transition. I slid into the DMs to enjoy him into queer divorcé club.

My ex and I were together for seven years. The relationship unsuccessful mainly because we expanded apart. We moved poly as an effort to revive it, which was a disaster. As I ended up being suddenly capable time once again, we noticed I found myself keen on men (a realization that occurred on gym, normally).

In any event, J is a great twink — both boyish and fine. We see one another every few weeks and don’t stop talking in-between.

9 a.m.

J and I fuck before my bus returning to Philly. I’m able to inform J loves getting a boy and really loves drilling being banged by some other guys. Offering him that experience can be pleasing due to the fact intercourse by itself.

11 a.m.

Through the shuttle, I text my personal gf, K, just who stays in Boston and is going to on Thursday. We’ve been doing long-distance over the past seven-ish months. We tell the girl about my week-end with J, who she’s found. It’s cheesy poly crap, but I’m grateful that my girl is starting to become pals with someone i am watching.

7 p.m.

We stop a game of

Elden Ring

to jack down.

11 p.m.

We turn fully off my PlayStation and text both K and J good night.

time TWO

9 a.m.

I really do my personal WFH spreadsheets job in advertising technology. Mundane, whatever.

1 p.m.

Information a to ensure that people’re going to hang out afterwards. They go back to me personally a little later to confirm.

6:30 p.m.

Yoga course.

9 p.m.

an and I also cuddle within undies. These were a regular third beside me and individual I became online dating during COVID, but since that time, we have been trying (and weak) to reconnect for quite a while.

an is a professional dancer and has a totally incredible human anatomy. We don’t finish starting up, nonetheless it seems great getting together. They have observed extreme section of my personal queer development in the last two years. They let me know they’re moving to the West Coast for a dance job. I tell them i am delighted for them, though in private I’m unfortunate, wishing I experienced prioritized seeing them a lot more.

11 p.m.

We find out with an in their foyer until my Uber shows up. I’m regretful that i did not try to start a hookup earlier on. We guarantee to hang away before they allow.

time THREE

9 a.m.

Wood onto work, inspect some email messages.

9:30 a.m.

Feed my personal sourdough starter. We make bread for a weekly queer potluck I go to with C, a nonbinary drag queen i have been seeing rather regularly. I text all of them verifying they will the potluck tomorrow. I also text V, the yoga instructor i am supposed to see tonight. She has incredible abs, big sight, and a blonde mullet. She’s got that yoga-teacher crunchiness (that we seriously have actually something for).

2 p.m.

We ask K about her strategies for tonight. She’s going to a novel signing about queer record with a female she is watching. I inform their that i am witnessing V this evening. We are both pleased for every additional.

7 p.m.

We bike to V’s spot. She makes vegan ramen. Before long, we’re nude inside her room. V really loves that I’m able to toss the girl around and pin the lady down — I happened to be a powerlifter and a bodybuilder consistently before switching to pilates — and that I like how bendy and flexible this woman is. We grab her off the ground and fuck their while taking a stand for quite, that I can tell converts their on. She will come a bunch of instances immediately after which asks me to appear. We assist.

10:30 p.m.

My personal feet are tired and aching that i must cycle home standing.

11 p.m.

K texts me a cute selfie of the lady along with her big date. We inform the lady i really hope she’s a great time and turn on

Elden Ring

to tackle for an hour or so before going to sleep.

DAY FOUR

7 a.m.

I awaken to a book from K about how precisely she had a whole bunch of gay sex. Hell yeah.

11 a.m.

The loaves of bread look great. We grab an image that We post to Instagram and Twitter and deliver to everyone I’m setting up or flirting with.

5:30 p.m.

We check out see C ahead of the potluck. We get caught up within their garden. They can be disarmingly sweet and simple to speak with, and they bring out a sort and gentle side in me personally that I like.

6 p.m.

We go to their particular room to manufacture down and jack one another off quite. Neither people come, but neither of us seems the necessity to. Something about hooking up with C brings me into a very great “head empty, no views” space. Together with other men and women, my mind can roam regardless of how a lot I’m enjoying the sex, but with C, I feel totally enveloped by knowledge.

9 p.m.

C and I kiss each other so long following the potluck. I get a trip back once again to my neighbor hood considering exactly how nice they’ve been.

time FIVE

7 a.m.

K relates to Philly now!

12:30 p.m.

K texts me personally a lovely selfie of the girl on Amtrak. We respond with a heart-eyes emoji.

5:15 p.m.

K gets to my apartment, and I also’m thrilled observe the girl. She actually is had gotten amazing curls, strong doe vision, and a deliciously tight climber’s human anatomy. We found at a buddy’s celebration. I happened to ben’t yes I happened to be prepared for a relationship, nevertheless psychological hookup was actually too-good to not follow, despite having the bullshit of long-distance. Now she actually is relocating to Philly to-be beside me (in order to get free from Boston). She is been poly the woman whole adult existence and it is acquiring ahold of her very own bisexuality in the same way Im. It feels very good becoming with a person that is going through some of the exact same things as me.

We’ve an extended, nice incorporate. We bury my personal face in her own locks and inhale the woman scent. We strip down and rise onto sleep. Fundamentally, cuddling changes to fucking. We’ve come to be specialists in one another’s delight. I finger this lady, and she makes use of a vibrator until she comes, I quickly fuck their from behind and arrive inside her — the sight closed when you look at the mirror i have hung up alongside my personal sleep. We take a few adorable nude selfies collectively, then pass-out in one another’s hands, our feet snuggled by my pet.

8 p.m.

We get up from your snooze and decide going to up the kink meetup at a club in my community. I’m not used to the kink world, but K’s already been doing it for some time. We make light small talk which includes associated with the attendees before K sooner or later operates in the self-confidence to inquire of a pretty lady who some people are hitting if she can have a turn. As K deftly slaps the girl ass with a riding harvest, the girl whimpers with enjoyment, her right back arching. I think about the potential for welcoming her home and banging her together. But she is here together attractive (but obviously direct) date, and that I’m certain he is probably thinking a similar thing about K.

11:30 p.m.

We go home giddy with enjoyment that K will go right here and we’ll manage to try this constantly. I am tired, but K is very good at rousing me personally as I’m tired. We shag and pass out in each other’s arms.

DAY SIX

12:15 p.m.

We make use of our very own luncheon break to own gender. K is discovering some bi-gender stuff, so she wears a binder and I also call her my son. I do not love becoming also dominating with ladies, but I actually do enjoy it with guys. You will find the lady know me as “Daddy,” slapping her butt and screwing her difficult. Neither of us will come, but the two of us get a lot of delight out of it.

5:30 p.m.

Yoga class with K. V actually instructing this evening, but all parties have actually affirmed this would not end up being strange if she were. During class, we idly imagine a post-yoga threesome with K and V.

7 p.m.

K and I grab takeout on route back through the studio, smoke weed, watching a couple of attacks of

Star Trek: Deep-space Nine

. (she is an enormous lover.)

9 p.m.

K pegs me with the band we ordered on her last go here. I quiver with satisfaction. We are both clothes but change each additional. She brings my personal locks, and I ride the woman band in a lot of positions. Whenever my arse cannot go on it anymore, I fuck this lady and appear within her. I then get the lady down using a mix of a vibrator and a metal insertable rod. She squirts a lot (we have discovered to put a towel down), subsequently will come difficult, melting into my personal arms.

DAY SEVEN

8 a.m.

We awaken before K to get some

Elden Ring

time.

9:30 a.m.

K gets up, therefore we get bagels and coffee.

8 p.m.

After a comparatively low-key time, K and that I cook commit completely with a few friends to a nearby queer dancing night. K does my eyeshadow, and I put on my black-leather harness, fabric cuffs, and cat ears.

11 p.m.

We fulfill the pals from the club, that have coke and mushrooms. K partakes of both, but I stick with weed. There are several sexy kids.

11:30


p.m.

A


good-looking guy with a Jersey feature pops up for me and excitedly states hello. I am visibly baffled until the guy reminds myself he’s D, the man from my personal very first Grindr hookup finally fall (well, one of them — it was a foursome in a hotel where I became as well anxious attain hard). We introduce him to K, just who says to him it is an honor.

12 a.m.

Dance and flirting with cuties collectively (plus the medications) have actually K and myself humming and frisky. We get into your bathroom stall, and she instantly begins blowing me. The seediness of this entire experience is a large start both for people.

1 a.m.

All of our pals mean that you will find an after-party and probably an orgy, but both K and I also are running out of energy and wish to catch a yoga course in the morning. We take an Uber house, have some gentle and sleepy gender, and fall asleep in both’s arms.

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